One of the amazing blessings we have as a community of people who know and love one another, is that we get to celebrate our successes together. As a local church in Manchester we want success for each other, and success for our church.
But what does success look like, and how is it realised in our lives? We believe that for success to be success at all, it has to be on our terms or its not really success.
You see if we are successful but its wrecking our health, happiness, family, marriage, friendship or well being, we are crazy if we think this is success.
As a church in Manchester our heart is to encourage our people to set out what success looks like for their individual family situations. We challenge our people to understand what their non-negotiables are in their pursuit of that success. Success is never success if its not giving you the lifestyle, or quality of lifestyle you and your family want.
Some helpful but painful questions to ask ourselves might be: Is my success making me sick? Is my success keeping me up at night? Is my success changing me into the kind of person I never wanted to become? Is my success damaging people around me that really matter to me?
We may be doing great in our career. Our achievements may be off the scale in terms of the bottom line, a growing customer base, more sales, increased profit and higher productivity, which is all good when kept in its place.
But, the bigger question must be: Is the success on my terms?
At our church in Manchester we encourage our people to ask. What are the non-negotiables? What will I allow not to happen in the cause of being successful?
Why? Because if success is not on those terms. On our terms, then its not success.
So then, we have tough choices to make, and we have to re-define what success looks like. Success may look like travelling less, refusing to be away from family too much during the formative years of our children’s development. Success may look like refusing a promotion that requires a relocation.
This may look like success to our employers, but our re-defining of success means that it’s a fail to us.
In a highly competitive city culture we at Bethany church in Manchester encourage our people to define success on their terms and to succeed inside that.
Psalm 37:23-24 (NIV)
The LORD makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with his hand.